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Modern Dating Truths: Why Men Should Reconsider Loyalty and Investment in One Woman



If you’re a man who doesn’t excel in traditional beauty standards or rely on abusive/controlling tactics, you should seriously reconsider being loyal or investing in just one woman. Modern dating dynamics have made it clear: there’s little to no reward for being a good, loyal man in today’s market.

Women have consistently shown that kindness, loyalty, and good character are not their priorities. Instead, they gravitate toward men with status—whether tied to looks, wealth, or perceived social level. If women truly valued "good men," those men would be in high demand. Yet, the reality is the opposite. men that fit traditional beauty standards (eg. tall) or toxic and manipulative men—regardless of their attractiveness—often receive far more attention. Even harmless actions by average men are dismissed as "creepy," while the same actions by high-status men are praised as "confident" or "bold."

The truth is, women evaluate men primarily based on perceived status, not kindness or morality. If being good and loyal actually mattered, toxic men wouldn’t thrive socially or romantically—but they do, because status is the real currency.

Moreover, most women are "alpha widowed" by their past experiences. Whether it’s an attractive ex, an abusive partner, or even the idealized memory of someone who treated them poorly, they carry these attachments into future relationships. As a result, if you’re not abusive/controlling or someone whose value stems from attractiveness, you’ll always be competing with her past. You’re set up to lose, and more often than not, you’ll be disrespected or even cheated on.

With the rise of feminism and the normalization of misandry, men are increasingly demonized and denied empathy. Look at how society handles infidelity: if a woman cheats, it’s the man’s fault for being inattentive or unworthy. If a man cheats, he’s condemned outright. Women are allowed to "monkey-branch"—jumping from one man to another with ease and minimal accountability.

Women’s actions have proven that loyalty is no longer a requirement for relationships. More often than not, men are treated worse than the abusive exes or high-status partners women idolize. They’ve made it clear: loyalty and goodness don’t matter. So why should men continue to sacrifice for women who aren’t loyal in return?

The best strategy for men is to mirror women’s approach. Keep your options open. "Spin plates," as the saying goes. Never invest fully in one woman, and never sacrifice your goals or dignity for a relationship. Women have shown that they don’t deserve loyalty, so accept that reality and act accordingly.

This doesn’t mean becoming abusive or controlling—those strategies are unethical and unnecessary. Instead, embrace indifference. Focus on building your own life and value, and never let any one woman have the power to devalue you.